I need to pause this morning and honor my friend, Thad, who is approaching the end of his fight with the disease we share. Thad has some of the best doctors in the world working on his behalf and has made every effort in medical and personal terms to fight his disease. The doctors understand the toll cancer takes on our bodies in clinical terms. Unfortunately, unless they are cancer survivors, they cannot possibly understand the toll cancer takes on our hearts, souls and thoughts. This is the battle we must win in order to find our peace. This is the fight Thad has won.
Thad and I “met” about 2 years ago thru a mutual business associate and friend. We have never visited face to face, we share no social connection, we share a common enemy which forged our friendship. Our conversations are deep and the topics intimate. Cancer has a way of stripping away the bullshit and allowing our essential essence and naked truths to surface. I always admire his candor and attitude when we share our hopes, fears and experiences.
Last evening on FB, I shared a youtube video created by Thad’s church to share his message for all of us. Aside from advocating for his church, there are several powerful messages in the video. He speaks of faith, hope and love, and how they define God for him. Thad plainly tells us how he found the peace, strength and courage to sustain his hope and belief in something more powerful than himself. Not only does he speak it, he shows it. Cancer treatment is mentally exhausting and physically demanding. When you watch an ostensibly healthy-looking man, whose words tell a different story, sharing his message of strength, faith, love and hope, sit up and take notice- you are witnessing an act of selflessness and a show of courage and strength summoned from a much higher power.
When Thad speaks about how he found his peace, I am reminded of the lyrics from a Foreigner song:
I Want to Know What Love Is
I gotta take a little time, a little time to think things over
I better read between the lines, in case I need it when I’m older
Now this mountain I must climb, feels like the world upon my shoulders
Through the clouds I see love shine, it keeps me warm as life grows colder
In my life there’s been heartache and pain
I don’t know if I can face it again
Can’t stop now, I’ve traveled so far, to change this lonely life
I want to know what love is, I want you to show me
I want to feel what love is, I know you can show me
I’m gonna take a little time, a little time to look around me
I’ve got nowhere left to hide, it looks like love has finally found me…
Godspeed my friend.